1. Be nice to your mom, always spend more time with her, enjoy every moment, take lots of pictures together (thats what you'll want to look at when she's gone), ask her questions that you will want her to answer on big life events, marriage questions, motherhood and pregnancy questions, document meaningful conversations.
I often wish i could talk to my mom about marriage and motherhood but i didn't realize it in.
Value and trust her experience and what she can teach you <3 chances are you are more like her than you realize!
Sometimes, i look in the mirror, say or do something and i remind myself of her, i see her in myself. As i go through life i find myself asking "i wonder if something like this ever happened to my mom, i bet it did. I wonder what she did.
2. Life does not go as planned. It is good to have a plan, but don't sweat the details, enjoy life as it comes and let it come, flow, and pass. There are thing you can't control so it is much simpler to let them be than to fight them, fight the emotion, fight the reality. Life is still good, even when it doesn't of as planned, sometimes even better than you could've imagined.
3. Stop trying to please other people. SERIOUSLY. I've said this a few other times. I've read it everywhere, but i don't think i really realized what it meant or when it was happening.
Say you have a boyfriend and you want to go somewhere but he doesn't want to go...so go without him, and if he's mad about it thats not your fault or your problem. Yea you'll have to deal with it but really whats going to happen? in the long run its not going to work out with someone who wants to keep you from the things that make you happy, the things that make you YOU.
Im not saying you should disregard his feelings either, but you have to make you happy, nobody else is going do do that for you. You have to remember that saying "remember to take car of yourself, you can't pour from an empty cup" Lori Deschene.
This also goes the other way so if you don't want to do something your boyfriend does, well let him go. If its something he feels draw to but you don't he should experience it. It is so important to be our true selves and not pretend to like something the other person does so that they will "like you". Someone doesn't like you for the things you like, they like you for the person you are.
I will make one more point off of that. Yes it can be great to have similar interests but a good relationship isn't dependent on that. Its a separate thing do something with that person because they like it and you want to go just to see the look on their face. To see their passion, to experience it with them, and witness the things that set their soul on fire. That doesn't mean they shouldn't go if you don't want to, nor should they try to guilt you into it by saying well I'm not going to go then if your not going (your making me miss it).
There is a fine balance between maintaining a healthy relationship with a significant other AND a healthy relationship with yourself!!!
"Show yourself some of the love your trying to give to everyone else" ~unknown
"you must love somebody in a way that they feel free"~Thich Naht Hanh